• Coping With Grief

• The Afterlife Unveiled

COPING WITH GRIEF

While death is inevitable, pervasive grief is not.  And while no amount of talking about death can ever truly prepare you for it when it happens to someone you love, it’s important to know you can  cope with it when it’s through the heart.

If you buried your dreams along with a loved one, do you know how to begin building new dreams?  Are you ready to wake things up again?  Address your heart’s need to be healed by including bright choices in your renewed healthy life:

• While your loved one is still around you at times, they have changed.  They are healed now and want you to feel them that way.  To do so, ask your heart to sense them as they are now.  Over time, your dreams will include increasing colors with vivid images of your loved one, healed.  This is an incredible opportunity for you to awaken each morning feeling more and more healed! 

• Invite your loved one to come around for family events, but don’t make a habit out of feeling that they’re there all the time to work through all that you have to do.  The truth is, their life needed to move on and now so does yours.  It’s not healthy to try to cling to your old life.  Regard them as special and then share those special times!

• Reign in the feeling that you have to fix whatever it was that brought about your loved ones death.  It’s like a team of wild horses that will take you for a ride you cannot control.  Instead, join an action group of people, who like you, are determined to bring about positive changes for mankind as they push through their personal pain.

• While it’s true you can no longer see your loved one, it does not mean you can’t sense them.  Imagine they’re in a distant room in your house trying to tell you something, but you have the radio on so it’s hard to hear what they’re saying.  Discerning your loved one is just like that.  Quiet the external noises and so much more than you think will come through.  

• Ask older people how they’ve come to cope with the loss of a loved one.  For while death and grief seem like taboo topics, chances are they’ll be grateful for the opportunity to share how they pushed through the pain to feel a quality of life again.  

• Forgiveness is something most of us are not used to thinking about when a love one dies, but it’s a huge piece of the puzzle when dealing with profound loss.  Forgiveness repairs the hole around your heart that says you can never be repaired.  Forgive your loved one for whatever it was that caused their death, even if they had nothing to do with how it played out.  Trust they know (all too well) that without a sense of forgiveness, you carry a burden no one should ever have to bear.

• Take a song from your childhood and give it back to your heart!  When moments of pain and loss come your way – and they will come – give your heart the joy it knew as a child by singing a favorite song.  Music is salve for the heart, and childhood songs have the longest lines of joy…even over songs you later shared with your loved one.   

• Affirm for you and for your loved one that they were an ordinary mortal.  If you make them out to be perfect it’s not a realistic picture, which keeps the bridge of communication and healing unattainable.  While it may seem natural to want to make them into angels watching over us, they’re not.  Stay grounded.  They’ll appreciate knowing you love them for who they really were and are.

• Send a sealed envelope to God with a letter inside describing your feelings.  Let God hold those for you.  When you’re ready, take a small clay pot out to your garden, place your envelope in it, and then burn the envelope.  See the smoke rise knowing that it’s God’s intention you not carry that burden alone any longer.

• Give yourself a healthy new start by becoming creative again.  This is the most sustaining engine for the heart, as creativity has the tendency to keep moving things further and further forward with more and more of the out-flow of joy!

Be brave.  Break the chains of grief.  Rise up each morning knowing you are being called to a healthier, brighter life.  It is possible with your permission.  Are you ready?

 Discerned by Lynn Scott from people in the afterlife.

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T H E   A F T E R L I F E   U N V E I L E D  

GUIDING YOU HOME -  If you believe in life after death, the transition is almost always seamless in that most often a friend or loved one from the other side comes to help you cross over.  However, because you are not initially fully understanding of what’s happening, they will advise you about how to proceed, and eventually help you out of your body. 

As your mind tempers itself more and more that you’re still alive, you’ll calm down enough to eventually access your inner ear’s voice to hear them.  (Your inner ear drum is like a tiny telephone that differentiates between the sound of outside noise, and the voices of loved ones in spirit.) 

Once you recognize your friend’s voice, it will most likely strike you that because they are dead, it means you are dead as well.  At that they will give you words of comfort, optimism and advice, helping you to relax and let go. 

THE LETTING GO - The letting go part is often the most difficult.  It means surrendering to the knowledge that you are no longer attached to your body.  Because so many people believe they are who they see in the mirror, this process can take a while. 

Soon thereafter you’ll begin to perceive a sort of lifting feeling which encourages you that you aren’t actually dead at all.  In fact, you’re quite alive!  By just looking at your guide as they encourage you to come with them, you will fully release from of your body.

SAYING GOODBYE - Going with your guide is inviting, to be sure, but it’s almost always with mixed feelings, too.  You realize it also means leaving behind your loved ones.  Chances are at this point you’ll take the time to revisit your home and sit with your family, trying to explain that you need to go but it doesn’t mean forever.  It’s a very emotional and difficult time for everyone, because while you are not visible and your words not heard audibly, all sentiments are felt quite deeply.

SAYING GOODBYE WHEN YOU’RE YOUNGER VS. OLDER - Getting ready to cross over usually takes a month or two if you’re young, for you have many more friends on this side than if you’re older, where many of your friends and loved ones are on the other side.  So as a young person, you’ll spend longer stretches of time with parents, friends, schoolmates and teachers, feeling your presence still with them; still feeling appreciated.  Before long, you’ll know in your heart you will never be forgotten. 

Once you come to grips that your life is indelibly etched on the hearts of so many, it comes to you (through a hopeful feeling in your heart) that there is more wonderful life in front of you that is equally and often more important. 

WHEN YOU’RE READY - When you look at your guide and express that you’re ready to move on, together you’ll bid a fond farewell to those you are with.  Without any further action on your part, The Light itself disassembles you and your guide into a stream whereby you’ll come – like lightening itself! – to the other side of the tunnel where you’ll be greeted by more and more friends, family, and loved ones!

THE REUNION - After you cross, you’ll see so many loved ones!  Most of all, you’ll feel their hearts, just as they feel your heart.  It is a moment of gratitude that is never forgotten, for all hearts then beat as one! 

As you come closer, you will see in their eyes welcoming messages.  Without further ado, you will know you are home!  With that, you give thanks to God that your life is still with those you love!

THE YOUNGER PERSON’S NEW BODY - If you’ve imagined a body that is quite different from your own, it will come to you but it won’t be instantaneous.  For when you were in your body, it was shaped by both your parents DNA as well as your thoughts.  But once you shed that lower body, your thoughts alone are with you whereby your new higher body will arrange itself lovingly as your thoughts arrange themselves lovingly.

Fortunately, this does not take as long as it does on this side (through diet) because your new body is made from strands of light and love which have a beautiful feeling right away. This helps bring to both your mind and heart even more reasons to want to keep feeling your new body with ease and joy!  In time, as you feel more and more love for this new body, it releases more and more of the old ‘angled’ ways of feeling, while embracing ithe new ‘wholeness’ way of feeling pure love!

This ‘wholeness’ feeling is ideal and ingenious.  It propels you forward toward wherever your mind goes while fully maintaining your thoughts about its beauty and phenomenal feeling of vibrancy.  At no time do you not look like yourself.  However, you do look more and more like the you you’ve always felt was deep inside!

THE YOUNGER PERSON’S NEW LIFE - Next comes the period of time where you must decide what you want to do with your life. 

Example: if you wanted to be an oncologist on this side but died prematurely, when you reach the point of decision-making on the other side you will be given the opportunity to feel how making a difference in fighting the war on cancer is an optimal goal.  The way in which you will be feeling this is through the veil, because no one on the other side gets cancer.

To study along side your fellow students (albeit invisibly) may be advised, for if you are to be inspiring others on this side to do certain breakthrough work, you will need to know of that work and the efforts that precede it.

This is where the majority of young adults come.  Once they know they can still make a difference on this side, they attend classes and even business meetings.  In fact, so many are moving things rapidly forward for the positive from the other side, that the dismantling of our old ways is underway right now!

Being a guide to those on this side is something you may opt to do once you become accustomed to the idea that you can be quite effective with your input – though in ‘veiled’ ways.  In fact, many feel it’s charming to watch people on our side congratulate themselves for thinking they came up with ideal solutions on their own, when in fact they have mentors in the light of love assisting them.  (Most mentors are more than happy to let the winner take the spoils, so long as the spoils don’t spoil the winner!)

CHOOSING YOUR HOME - After the reunion with your friends and loved ones, you’ll go to a home of your own choosing, or you may be given a home with others who also need assistance in getting acquainted with the afterlife.

Because the afterlife is an ethereal* place - built on feelings mostly (where memories exist), it is constructed by people before they come home.  Example: If you had a desire to live in a wonderful cabin like the one you stayed in as a child, it will be there when you arrive!  If, however, you want your home to be as it exists now, it will be there!  Either is advised because each exists. 

But if you want to be in a home that you’ve never seen or actually had a relationship with, it will take longer to build – even in the afterlife – since everything there is built on feelings and memory.

OLDER ADULTS - So now we’re up to speed on what happens when one dies and how they come into The Light if they are younger, so let’s look at life if one is older and frees themselves from their own body through age or illness:

From the start, the elderly man or woman on this side may begin by seeing their deceased loved ones.  At first they imagine it as wishful thinking, but as their eyes adjust to the light of love , they begin to sense that what they are seeing is real and not imagined!  For many seniors, pets and people they may have long forgotten come into view; that is to say, they see watery images of them.

As their breathing labors and their bodies adjust to longer and longer stretches of time between breaths, their eyes darken the picture of what’s around, while their mind’s eye sharpens, revealing images of glory.

Former friends and comrades, even, come and stay beside them at that point to welcome them.  This is a very special moment, for although they may have imagined that Heaven existed, they rarely considered how many people’s lives they touched, and how special their trip home is as they’re welcomed into The Light. 

SOLDIERS - Comrades are especially cared for.  They are sent into a select light where no one but no one will ever question their patriotism.  This is instrumental in their ability to feel healed, for many had to come home and keep quiet about the atrocities they witnessed.  It hardened their hearts not to be able to speak their peace about their young fellow comrades being harmed in the name of ‘war for peace’ which was a burden too many had to endure.

THE DISEASE PROCESS - Example: if you’re an older person with a disease of the liver, a liver transplant is unlikely.  For while you were on this side, your liver (a living organ) supplied you with a lifelong strand of energy sustaining you.  But when that strand became shorter and weaker, it meant your life force was nearing completion.

When the strand was so short and weak that there was no further allowance for energy to pass into your body, it broke off.  Once it broke, it shut down that organ.  Ultimately, little by little other strands supporting other organs withered up and freed themselves as well, for in their miracle of life-giving energy, without the fullness of the liver they could not be sustained.

THE OLDER PERSON’S NEW BODY - If you’re an older person and you gave your life to God, you will have prepared for yourself a new body (through the grace of Jesus).  While this new body is not unlike that of the younger person’s in that it is without the need for vegetable matter or animal proteins for nutrition, it is a younger version of you.  IMPORTANT: Because your maturity remains, your eyes still see what you feel inside.  Again, this is through grace!

THE OLDER PERSON’S NEW LIFE - Once across you’ll spend time reacquainting yourself with many of your old friends, neighbors, and loved ones who preceded you across.  Chances are it’s been decades since you last sat eye-to-eye with them, so you’ll need the time to really catch up and rejoice.  This is the exaltation of God’s love as you each feel the reasons why you were brought (blessed!) into each other’s lives.

WHEN BABIES DIE - Sometimes when a baby dies very young it is given another opportunity to be born again to its mother and father.  If it was a cherished child, this is highly likely. 

If a baby is born out of wedlock - where the parents are not in an institution of love and protection for one another for the sake of their child - that baby may opt to return to The Light where it will be given the opportunity to be born to other parents. 

COUPLES OF DIVORCE - Genuine interest in how your former spouse is doing takes precedence on the other side.  You and they will genuinely want to know and see that the other is well and protected from the ravages that divorce too often plays out.  After you know and feel how your ex-spouse is doing without the sorrow and the blame, many couples realize for the first time that although they were meant to be good friends, not intended through the eyes of God to be life partners. 

CHILDREN OF DIVORCE - Christ gives every child others in life who will provide for them the stability they need.  Grandparents, teachers, friends, and even other siblings.  All on Earth are provided with people who are the chosen ones, through Christ, to help bring one another home through love.

WIDOWS & WIDOWERS - If you lose a beloved spouse and later marry a new love, concern over who you will be with when you come home is often felt.  However, from the moment you cross over the mystery will be released, for your heart’s true partner will be revealed to you.  In fact, in God’s light of love all will be revealed to you!

FOOD - On this side the movement of food through your corporal body takes place because nutrients must be taken into your digestive tract for fuel.  On the other side this process is unimportant once your body has lightened to the point of not feeling your corporal life so much. 

(NOTE: Sometimes people feel their old life more than their new life, and the consumption of food for the sake of believing they still need it to survive continues.  Eventually they realize it is unnecessary.)

Foods are more like holographic images; 3 dimensional but not with matter.  It’s a treat because if you have the memory of loving hamburgers on this side, you can eat as many as you wish and never feel full or get fat on the other side!

It’s also important to note that you’ll never feel hunger either.  So the feeling of being accustomed to food showing up in time for meals goes away.  Meals are generally only opportunities for get-togethers with others to share stories and experiences.

SLEEP - You’ll sleep actively by preparing yourself ahead of time about where you want to go and then ‘rest assured’ you will go there overnight!

PERSONALITY - While you are no longer in a mortal body, your spirit contains the same vision, outlook and even personality as before, only without the fears.  For organs are the placeholders of fear.  And while the body has released organs of fear, your eyes, heart and brain are kept, for all agree that grace and love are among God’s greatest gifts to mankind. 

CONSIDERING GOD - God is a very important consideration when you’re on the other side of the veil.  For no one, not even if you’re from the lowliest of stations in life, is not greeted with glory when you come home to God!

REJECTING GOD - If you shun God - or know God does not exist - you stay dormant like a seed without a home…without sunlight, water, or fertile soil.  And while you’re in that state of limbo, you might - or might not - awaken to the fact that you still ‘are,’ though you are not sure of why you ‘are’ or even where you ‘are’.  You just know that you still ‘are’. 

Eventually, if you awaken to the feeling that you still ‘are’, you’ll come to a relapsed memory bridge that pulls you back to the point in time where you crossed over saying God is only in the imagination of those who need a crutch.

After you sense who you were back then, you’ll also sense why you came to that decision.  Avoiding further delay in awakening, you will most likely then sense that God is real and ask deeply and with full awareness to be forgiven for imprisoning yourself. 

But if you do not have the self awareness to feel that your plight is due to your own choices, you remain in that quagmire of thought / blame / shame / guilt / excuses / fear / doubt or senselessness (a total void; a limbo) until you reach out with your heart to God for help.

GOD RESCUES - While in limbo, if you come to the revelation that forgiveness for your unrepentant ways is your only hope for salvation, God comes and rescues you in that instant.  And through that awareness of forgiveness being your ticket out, God sends you back in time to all those you never apologized to and makes you make amends even if it means you stay and act as an unseen conduit for good things to happen for them; to help make up for what you previously caused.

HELL - ON THE OTHER SIDE - If you are so cold or so calculating in your decisions to harm or disregard the respect and needs of others (as being equal to your own), karma – or the wheel of justice – kills your essence without guilt or remorse.  It is an action equal to that of you, the offender.

Simply put, the burning pit filled with ragged people is a hell scene once painted by man’s hand that haunts mankind.  But in reality, hell plays out for people to live through either in life, the afterlife or both, for hell is what you desire and create for others…and ultimately inherit for yourself.

Unlike most people’s beliefs, while hell is a forever feeling, it is not forever if you repent and call out to Jesus for forgiveness.  And while some want hell to be forever (for the sake of revenge), it’s wisdom of the heart that always allows mankind to be picked up and held again in the heart by Jesus / Jehovah when His name is called out in the name of salvation.

HELL - ON THIS SIDE - If your life is presently upsetting and demanding while others live a life that’s productive and flowing easily, is that not a form of hell unto itself?  Now imagine you’re in a place where you don’t know how you got there or how to get out, but you know you’re stuck doing work all the time trying to effect a change.

What if that change never came?  What if the wheel kept going around and around with the same outcome no matter what you did?  If that’s what’s happening in your life, you’ve dug your own grave to some degree.  But no, that’s not hell in the sense of the soul.

To release from this negative karma, ask yourself what you can do differently to affect a change, not what others could/should do.  The more you accept personal responsibility vs. blaming others the more incredible your life will become.  Free yourself by freeing others from your plight.  

Q's  &  A’s

Q:  Do children grow up in the afterlife? 

If a child is quite young when it passes over, it is tended to lovingly by family on the other side.  Grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.  After they know who they are through those relatives, they understand that mothers and fathers are not always with small children in the afterplane. 

From there the child is taught and encouraged to come across and spend time with their family on this side, though they are always accompanied by someone they know and love to guide them.

As they see their mother, father and siblings, they begin to sense the corporal body’s evolution time and development and sense their body’s development in that light.  With guidance, they are encouraged to feel life with their family, and in that safe environment their mind develops a chain of creation (a chain of joy!) that overrides evolution. 

Being together with their parents and siblings becomes not just a temporary feeling of visiting, in those families where the child is felt as being alive in Heaven, it is seen and felt by their parents within their hearts.

Specifically, as the child ages – with time and development – the parents leave the sphere of deep sorrow and in many cases begin to know that their (once) baby is now a five-year-old, fully engaged as a member of the family.

From the perspective of the 5 year old, its family is wonderful.  Even if they see their parents arguing or crying, what they feel is the love deep within each.  Together, as the child ages so too the parents age.

When Christ takes the parents home, their child, no longer a baby, will be right there to greet them with the personality and smile they knew all along (deep within) was always there.  So while the parents may have had the initial feeling that they lost out on the wonder years, in their life’s review they see, sense and feel their child’s development - and the curse of the death is lifted off.  With that, no further sorrow is ever felt.

Q:  Do we go through a life review after we cross over?

If you cross over with a muddled mind, you will be instructed and encouraged to accept a life review before you move forward into your final home in Heaven.  But if you come across with the clarity that you are who you said you are, then you are advanced to the next level.

Most people believe with all their hearts that they are who others say they are.  For instance, if someone says, “You’re not really a natural athlete, are you?” it leaves an imprint on that person’s heart that tells them to be more awkward than not.

Sadly, such stunning comments often leave a gifted person without their gifts to further play out.  So many, in fact, that nature itself has had to remove the cord of doubt from around millions of hearts by way of pushing that person through a disaster in order to get them to dig deep within themselves to sense their triumphs of the soul and feel their God-given gifts. 

Back to the review:  If you are one with a muddled outlook on life, you will be invited into a sort of review chamber where your mind will be protected from the death of you, as well as the death of others who’ve you suffered through, but the rest of your life will be revealed and softly critiqued. 

Environmentalists are extremely aware of this portion of their lives, as they believe that the Earth itself stands in judgment of how we treated our ‘Mother’.  While this is just one aspect of our review, it is ultimately a valid one in being considered a good steward of life on the Lord’s host planet created for our benefit and betterment.

Additional spheres of importance are also reviewed: how you handled conflict; how you treated those less fortunate; who you called heroes; how you treated animals and small creatures; how guns in your home can come back to haunt you; how you see yourself in the mirror; who you smile at & who you don’t; a person of affluence reaching out / or not; giving your heart to more than just those whom you want something from; and more.  Much, much more.

After the review, children come around and give you a pep talk.  They encourage you to feel the one who is still inside of you crying to get out: your childlike nature of trust and love.  In this period you will be given the option to see yourself as a child again and feel the goodness that is truly who you are.  This is the miraculous unveiling and recovery of the real you!

Q:  Is someone always waiting to help you right after you die? 

No.  Not always.  You might be left alone for a long period of time, so in that sense not everyone has someone waiting for them right after they die.

You must wait if you’re a man or woman who died knowing that you did many things you regret, yet rarely showed  remorse or sorrow.  Instead, you opted to whitewash what you did by making excuses.  You must stay still in your place of keeping until you regret your own decisions and actions, for only then will you be allowed to come out of your self-imposed prison.

Prisons on this side are structures built of metal gates and cell walls where you goes in but must pay a dutiful penalty before coming out.  There beside you sits your conscience.  Most of the time prisoners are not aware that their behavior is exactly what got them where they are, opting instead to believe it was others’ choices that drove them there.

In both cases - this side and the afterlife – you will remain locked in a cage until some form of repentance is delivered, or sorrow is sought through giving up whatever it was you took from others until your karma is wiped clean.

Scenes of this are often play out in nightmarish ways where you are not in control of your life.  Just as your victims were not able to control the outcomes of their situations, so too you must lie in wait until the karmic wheel of justice opens a door for you again, thus allowing you a chance at redemption.  Until then, the tormenting visions become your own hell and one which you cannot escape.

Captured in your own web of lies and deceit, you may begin to soul search; begin to look at yourself a little deeper, wondering if perhaps you drove yourself into that ditch.  Inescapably, you must remain sidelined until you offer something of sorrow and/or repentance to God by making a sincere and heartfelt apology for all that you did, or you go back into your own life and relive those moments of decision making until you opt to turn the wheel the other direction thus escaping the ditch in the road.

AS A CHRISTIAN - You will have the peace as you lay in your death bed that you shall not die.  You will have the peace knowing that a band of angels shall accompany you home upon exiting your body.  Swiftly you shall be lifted, and swiftly you shall be carried into the arms of awaiting loved ones knowing that your time was coming.

There you shall connect and reconnect with all your loved ones knowing your time will come with Jesus Christ in the Second Coming  when you shall reunite with your physical body once again, but a new body, one without the need to shed its mortal sin.   

Q:  Are there levels of Heaven?

All are welcomed across once lifted from their hardship places.  While you may wish to remain in the ethers** to see and feel the life without sorrow or regret, you may be lifted even further into the light of love where you experience the gift of seeing Jesus, Himself! You are among those who walked with Him in their inner eye, and even spoke with Him as one would seek counsel and direction from a trusted friend.

As you come into the form of light where Jesus is, you are then embedded with cell walls reuniting you with your old body, but a body without the genetics of sin waging war on your souls. 

There Jesus walks and talks and instructs you about His vision of Earth where you and all who need Him (to guide Earth through mankind’s war of revenge) assemble together and reach the consensus that you must give up war forever.  Opting instead for peace through the brotherhood of nations, you agree there will be no tolerance for the tyranny of any dictator or religious movement that infringes on the rights of human beings to make choices freely for their own manifest destiny. 

Coming up to this level is often referred to as 7^th Heaven.  This is where God instructs you and others (with the know-how) how to influence those on this side.  There, each of you are ‘re-minded’ about how to think more clearly, and then shown whom to instruct to in order to facilitate the miracles ahead!

Q: What do people do all day in the afterlife?

The afterlife is not a banquet that goes on and on.  It is a place where you relive your life in the sense of reflection, but do not take on the pain of your decisions when you see your willful ways. 

Along with most people you can still drive cars, opt to live in homes, and settle in neighborhoods.  Often, but not always, you eat because it makes you feel real in the way of being normal.  While it’s imagined food (in the same way that your body is an imagined body), it’s still there for you to experience because it’s felt.

Q: So food, bodies and homes are all imagined? 

God has hosted millions of human beings who have crossed over.  Most eat, sleep and rest just as we do on this side.  And while most want to relax, you may also want to do work for others; to help wherever you can.  It’s like being at camp, but for adults!  While no one kicks a kid out of camp if they don’t want to participate, if left alone long enough eventually they will want to participate.

Q: Do people make love?

Of course!  In fact it’s more amazing in how deeply you feel the love, because your body is not an issue.  Love is your driving force and nothing else matters more than feeling the love!

Q: Do you keep your personality on the other side?

Along with a lot of other people, you will feel even more of who you are.  While you may not say you are altered in the sense of being a different person, you do feel freed from that which haunted you and caused you consternation on this side.

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 * ethereal - Mirriam Webster Dictionary

1.  a: of or relating to the regions beyond the earth  b: CELETIAL, HEAVENLY  C: UNWORLDLY, SPIRITUAL

2.  a: lacking material substance:  IMMATERIAL, INTANGIBLE  b : marked by unusual delicacy or refinement  c: suggesting the heavens or heaven

 ** ethers - American Heritage Dictionary

1.  The regions of space beyond the earth's atmosphere; the heavens.

2. The element believed in ancient and medieval civilizations to fill all space above the sphere of the moon and to compose the stars and planets.

3. Physics An all-pervading, infinitely elastic, massless medium formerly postulated as the medium of propagation of electromagnetic waves.